Man Up

Imagine, a situation where something unthinkable happens to you that leaves you devastated, shattered and you would never in your wildest dreams imagined it to go so bad. Let's take a hypothetical situation, although this can be explained with reference to things but since easy to relate with humans let's take two humans. You have an intangible relationship with someone. By relationship it can be two friends, siblings, parents and child, mentor and you anything. You owe that person because you're indebted to them not just in terms of money but you also have a important relation with them. Now (this is to create a dramatic scene) a day comes  where things don't remain the same as before and it gets complicated. When you both sit over to have a chat, they ask you to tell them what all mistakes have they done in life. You start over by mentioning that you're not blaming them in anyway and you can also understand that they must have failed in some situations but since they really want to know, you gradually start but things end up getting worse, they go on to think that you're blaming them and additionally add that you've no right to talk to them that way and you should be guilty of what you just said. Remember you indebted to them right? A friend of that person has been trying life long to improve such qualities of them but they've failed all these years and now you're not only feeling pity for their friend but also you've no idea what you should do. They have zero sense of empathy. They take everything personally, coming from their background it's kinda justifiable but since, they've overcome that; at least now they can work on improving themselves right? But no, they don't. I also think that after some point of time in life especially after like 40/45+ years, getting to change a person is next to impossible; same is the case here. What do you do now?

Well I think that you should man up. First of all don't do stupid things when you're crazy. If you're planning to leave them, it could be possible if you weren't in debt. Moreover, that person has spent their life time for you so running away is not ideal. You still value that person and escaping the situation is what cowards do. So, what's next? Well, I think you should simply man up. If possible move out, don't cut off connections with them and be in touch, try to repay them if you can be it in installments and remember that you have a life too. Take responsibility of that and if possible try to help their friend too out of such a toxic relationship. Although it's not purely toxic and some elixir is there but what's the use when a person has zero empathy, is self-centered and is boastful of the favors done by them. Obviously, it's the friends choice to decide but helping them out is possible by you and after all, what's the point of life if you just came to exist and turn back into soil without giving anything back to society. So, take charge of yourself, become independent and never let anyone in your life to take their place. You should be so self reliant that you can tackle anything come what may. This all being said, do remember to be grateful to that person because one, it'll help you live with them and accept them for what they are and two, they did help you when you were nothing.

Ironically, I can't man up to make a voice note for this post, can't really explain why. It's kinda personal but I am trying right? I wrote this post. Baby steps, and hopefully within some time frame I will be able to really man up.