Learn to live alone! Be a man.
Learning how to live all by your own is one of the most important if not the most essential skills one should develop. This may go against the usual notion that humans are social creatures and we yearn for day-to-day interactions and that is not incorrect. What I am trying to say is that, if you’re able to live all by your own, you’ll live the ultimate life. How? Let me explain.
First of all, let’s feel the fact that we’re also animals. Yeah, we’ve become socialized and we have a great civilization and what not but the matter of fact is that we are also animals just like the rest of animal kingdom.
So, I started exploring some wildlife videos wherein a lion pride was attacked by two brother lions. They we’re able to overthrow the current leader and once they did that, they killed all of his cubs that very moment. Watching those little cubs surrender to death was heartbreaking to watch. But that is not what shattered me into pieces.
It was the lioness, instead of doing something to protect her cubs, she let’s everything happen and the next moment she was making out with the new leaders of the pride i.e the Lion brothers. One of them still had blood stains of the lion they defeated and the cubs he killed and the lioness was mating with him. Her entire parenting years till now had gone in vain and she had no other option but to accept the reality.
Nature as beautiful as it maybe also has a darker side and this maybe one of those. Some other examples that I can think of are earthquakes and tsunamis.
Now, how does this relate to the importance of learning how to live alone? Think about the defeated lion, he is alone and if you’re a little aware of the way a pride functions is that, lioness does the hunting and provides food whereas the lions are for protection, they’re not skillful hunters. But, the situation has forced the old lion to hunt for himself or else he’ll die.
Well such situations are bound to occur in human life too. I don’t mean the exact situations but there will obviously be times when you’ll be defeated and times when you’ll be left out alone. Either you’ll have no one to talk to & share your feelings/vent your heart out OR, even if you have a few people you would deliberately decide not to trouble them with your problems/not add to their misery and trust me, this will happen more often than not.
It’s a well known statement that, women, animals and children are loved unconditionally but, a man is loved only for the condition that he provides. It is up to you to either moan and cry about the situation or simply accept the fact and man up. It’s not easy, it’s never gonna be. If it were easy everyone would have done it, it’s hard and that makes it worth pursuing.
But you may disagree with me on the basis of two things perhaps. One that you can’t be emotionally strong like a rock and you need to vent it out. Well okay, do it, but the forms of venting out should be very personal. Cry (but why would you?) only when you’re alone, I would rather say get a punching bag and beat the shit out of it every once in a while; that’ll definitely help. Secondly, you may argue that if you learn the skill of living alone you’re not being natural and in the long run, it’s rather unhealthy. I couldn’t disagree more. If you imbibe that skill in yourself, it’ll become so natural that it’ll be just like walking. You’ll do it involuntarily and soon you’ll be an alpha. Good Luck!
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What does it mean to be a man?
Understand the difference between a man and a woman. They are not the same no matter how the society portrays it or how many people believe it. Even if everybody believes in something wrong, that doesn’t make it right. A man is the only creature that can set aside all the emotions he is going through and make a decision rationally and does what is needed to be done. As simple as it may sound, not many people can do this.
To be a man, does it mean to be emotionless?
No. If you’re a man that doesn’t mean that you’re not human. Of course you’ll feel emotions that too rather strongly. But the way you react to it is different than most people. Most people bitch and cry about the situation, some aren’t even to continue day to day tasks and some will completely give up. You can keep those feelings aside for the time being, complete what you’ve been doing for the day and deal with it, by sweating it out and get back to work the next day as if nothing ever happened. The same goes to happiness as well, don’t start jumping like a clown, act like a mature person.
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