The SHER's Blog

If you have been through my earlier posts, everything basically comes down to, it was you fault and you should take complete responsibility of it. Don't be doubtful of yourself or your future whether you'll be successful or not. I know one can learn from others mistakes but some mistakes in life are meant to be made, because simply getting the main message/moral is not enough; sometimes we need to experience it. In simpler words, we failed in achieving our goal because we were supposed to fail. In a way, it was a message from the supreme one that there was some flaw in our plan/mindset/work.   But, what happens after we fail? Most of us simply make excuses and give up. It's understandable to feel low and realize that we're in such state because of our own poor decision making. This in no way justifies not taking action and not working towards our goal. Take me for instance, even I feel pointless right now writing this post, I feel as if, why am I writing this? After...

Imagine, a situation where something unthinkable happens to you that leaves you devastated, shattered and you would never in your wildest dreams imagined it to go so bad. Let's take a hypothetical situation, although this can be explained with reference to things but since easy to relate with humans let's take two humans. You have an intangible relationship with someone. By relationship it can be two friends, siblings, parents and child, mentor and you anything. You owe that person because you're indebted to them not just in terms of money but you also have a important relation with them. Now (this is to create a dramatic scene) a day comes  where things don't remain the same as before and it gets complicated. When you both sit over to have a chat, they ask you to tell them what all mistakes have they done in life. You start over by mentioning that you're not blaming them in anyway and you can also understand that they must have failed in some situations but since ...

There are times when we feel lost, times when it feels like what's the purpose of living and even if we have one, we start doubting whether it's worth it or not, and of course it's worth it we know that. But what to do everything seems hopeless and we become helpless like a crazy lethargic human with inhuman characteristics. So, what to do? How do we overcome this phase of life or if you may call struggle.   Okay there's something I need to tell before I write about this. This is what I actually do. I write about it, with a third person perspective. And I know there are many other ways, like; you can speak to yourself and take advice from yourself (I've also written about this in the other post of this blog named challenges ). You can also treat yourself like your child ordering them or at least helping them out and ensuring that they follow the instructions positively that's just another way. In short the sole motive is to discipline yourself and as...

We've all been through it not just once but several times in our life. I have always believed life to be mysterious. It can surprise you anytime. Well currently I am going through a stage where I feel completely lost (not in terms of having no direction but in terms of defeat). While trying to achieve things outside of just the ordinary I feel I have even failed to achieve the ordinary. Yes even I have heard the saying that "If you set your goals ridiculously high and it's a failure; you will fail above everyone else's success" but it didn't work out for me, or at least it seems like it hasn't. Yeah the things which I have done might give me an edge in the future but currently I am miserable like totally miserable. Sometimes even the motivational videos are of no help coz I know my current state and there is a way out. I can see it but I don't want to do it. Why? Because that'll make me just like the rest, someone who follows the herd. But still f...

Sometimes I feel I am nothing, literally. I feel my life is worthless and I am just another puppet of the Almighty; but sometimes life makes me so happy for almost nothing so discrete. Let’s take an example of an examination. There are two scenario’s, first, in which I’m prepared and turns out it didn’t go that well okay? And I start regretting what was the use of studying when it had to go bad.  I could have just chilled and written the exam without studying but do we realize that in the latter part I could have literally failed? And now the second case in which I did not prepare for my exam but it went just fine and I am more than happy about it! In this case I should have just felt relieved and should have taken care that it would not happen from next time. But what do I do? Enjoy!?! I think you get the essence.   Anyway, coming back to the main idea of mystery, it’s just that life can be so unpredictable sometimes. Something which we regret not achieving and which has ...

Life sometimes needs a new perspective. In the the previous blog I mentioned that there is a difference between what we are and what we are supposed to be; it is when what we're supposed to be becomes a load on us, we need a new perspective in life. I think it's okay to cheat. Now by cheating I only mean cheating yourself; that too only from what you're supposed to be. Let me explain: Sometimes by simply keeping aside our ambition and enjoying the small things which we really like e.g watching a movie, writing, eating ice-cream even when you were asked not to can refresh our mood and give us joy, since the longing for something gets fulfilled. In short, what we're doing is being what we really are and to know oneself is a journey in itself. While I said cheating is okay and even beneficial sometimes one should never cheat from what they really are because that way we become unaccountable. The sole existence of responsibility for anyone is because they're accountab...

There is a difference between who we are and what we're supposed to be. The moment we’re born we are given our name, religion, and we’re brought up with some moral values, matter of fact though that none of those are our choices and we spend our entire life living up to the values and expectations of the society. You may say that oh no, I don’t give a damn about the society, all what matters to me is my family and career but some point in life we reach a stage and realize that we at last we have to live in this very society and we need friends and relatives outside of our family circle too.  After all how lonely can you be? There will be a time that you’ll get tired of seeing and talking to the same people again and again over the same topics i.e. why the society is there for. We may not find people of similar mindset easily but they do exist. How do I know? Well you’re an example.   If you’re an extrovert you surely have friends but even you may get left out sometimes...